Friends after surgery

 So I know it is common to lose friends after surgery. It has happened. But i have also gained some pretty awesome friends as well. But have you had any friends that were all for you doing the surgery and still supportive after and then boom they seem like they are the ones changing and not you?? Its weird i feel like i am still me for the most past just 130 lbs less than i was before!! So what do you do? Do you talk to them??

I feel like im in this weird vortex.

Also the weird thing is now. I am pregnant. And due in jan. People keep telling me or saying to me. Tanya, Are you ok with gaining all the weight back?? WTH?? Really?? do people really think im gonna 100plus lbs in the next 5 months? Is that even possible?  I keep telling them I have yet to gain any real weight. I feel like maybe i look like im turning into a beached whale  again!! OMG. LOL i think im emotional!!

I have a lot of acquaintences but just a few very close, personal friends and luckily for me I have kept all of them thru fat and not-so-fat - and they were all very supportive of me thru the process and now that I'm closing in on my goal. But I don't see them a lot - we all live at least an hour apart - some a lot more, so maybe absence is a good thing??

On the other hand, we have changed - at least I know I have. I am more confident now - I do more now because I'm able to do more now. I get teased a lot by my friends and family - I'm now cooking more and looking up recipes and seeing how I can make them healthier or something I can eat and tolerate; I love being outside and playing with my flowers, trimming shrubs, etc.  - they're all calling me Martha Stewart - and when they see me working out 5-6 times a week I'm called a Fitness Queen - you know what? I don't care!! I love the new me and I hope they love me too, but I can tell in some things that I have changed, and sometimes people can't adjust to that.

Just know that the friends you keep are your true friends and will love you fat, thin, silly, bald, healthy, sick - no matter what. And no, you're not going to gain 100 lbs with this pregnancy - you've probably never been healthier for a pregnancy - tell them that!!

Right now I am dealing with the weight gain back with the pregnancy... personally I'm fine with it... but my high risk doc isn't... my normal ob is fine with it... so I feel like I am in some strange weight triangle... lol... but for me it is strange for half of me to look pregnant and the other half (lower) look fat... the pregnancy has made what was left of my fat roll look strange... it hangs way way lower and has stretched out strange as well... Lorelei keeps asking if there is 2 babies... because in a way I have 2 baby bumps lol...

As for the friend thing the only person that has been strange has been my MIL... I know she supported me in the choice but then fixes things for everyone else and then not me because it is either to high in fat or has sugar in it... and I was fine for a while to bring my own dessert... but now... well I'm sick of it... it's getting old... she will make things free of onions (Jeremy is allergic to them if they are raw or not cooked long enough) or milk free (she is a lactard along with some other family members) but she can't make something sugar free for me... so in my own way I am getting back by making stuff full of milk when I bring something over mahahahaha... i know but I'm tired and just don't care lol...

My husband is diabetic and really has to watch sugars and carbs so every time we were invited to a meal at one of  our  family members we  were served  all carbs  like  pasta  dishes  no  meat  lots  of  bakery items  so  after getting  fed  up  with  it  we  invited  them  to  our  house to eat they  came  and  never  came  back  for  a  meal we  served  grilled  fish  cucumber  salad   sliced  tomatos  and   tossed  salad,  after  we  had  coffee.....decaf.........s/f   apple  tarts   with  nut  crust. we  don`t  get  invited  to  thier  house  anymore  but  thats  ok!!!!!!!!!

You know I am really sad I am treated so bad  for loosing  weight   I  live  in  a  very  small  community  where  everyone  know  everyone  never  lock  our  doors  or  anything  I  started  my  journey  7/08  at  314   in  the  hospital  monthly  with  asthma  attacks  now  i  have  lost  around   119 lbs   since 2/09   and  I  have  no  female  friends  we  all  use  to  have  pot  luck  meals  at  different  homes  every  month  thier  have  been  gatherings  and  we  are  not  invited  no  one  will speak  to  me  my  husband  wants  to  move.